To be successful in dating, you need to understand how men think. They think very differently from women. They follow a linear train of thought and tend to be more rational than emotional. They classify things to help organize their thoughts. One of the things that men classify is women.
For most men, each woman falls into one of four categories: Guardian, Friend, Adventure, or ugghh!
She is a guardian if she has the traits that he looks for in a mate. While this could include a variety of things, many men appreciate women with a sense of humor and self-confidence. For some men, physical attractiveness is very important, while others look inside. Everyone has their own ideas about what is attractive too.
She is a friend if you don’t turn it on. He may think that she is cool and enjoys her company, but he doesn’t see himself getting intimate with her. Tombs often fall into this category. Being “one of the boys” is a good way to ensure that you will always be friends with the boy you have a crush on. Generally, men prefer feminine women. While you don’t have to prance around like Paris Hilton, you may want to start wearing a little makeup and more flattering clothes. Stop smoking, cursing and drinking beer. Sit like a lady. Don’t tell off-color jokes. If you start to change in these little ways, men will start to notice.
She is an adventure if he thinks she is sexy but doesn’t like her personality. A good way to be labeled an affair is to dress provocatively. While the media encourages us to dress this way, it really is a bad idea. While men think scantily-clad women are attractive, they don’t think of these women as potential mates, just one-night stands. To avoid being judged easy, dress conservatively and do not respond to any sexual gestures. Many men will try, just to see what you do. And if you get intimate too fast, you become an adventure.
She will fall into the category of “ugghh” if he just rejects it. Some men are put off by certain physical characteristics, such as weight or body characteristics. There is not much you can do about it. I do not suggest taking drastic measures to change your appearance in order to get a man. The right man will love you for who you are, not for what you look like. There are also certain behaviors that can land you in the category of ugghh, and these include: acting like a diva, whining, being cruel, cursing, getting drunk, using illicit drugs, and smoking.
Of course, your goal should be to become a goalkeeper. However, don’t try too hard or you’ll end up desperate and end up in the adventure category. While I agree that you should “be yourself,” I challenge you to grow in ways that make you a more desirable partner. If you’ve had one relationship disaster after another, take a look at your habits and determine which ones are keeping you from finding the right man. Then make changes and you will surely find Mr. Perfect sooner or later.