Jealousy, or the green-eyed monster as it is also known, can bring two people closer or drive them apart, depending on the situation. If your relationship recently ended, this is definitely NOT the way to get it back, and I’ll tell you why.
During your relationship, if you and your ex were somewhere and another guy showed an interest in you, your ex would get very irritated and would probably tell the guy in no uncertain terms that he doesn’t appreciate anyone looking at his partner. Although it embarrasses you, this reaction from your ex actually made you feel good.
You knew for sure that you belonged to him and that there was no way he was going to let another man come between the two of you. In short, it was flattering to know that your guy was jealous of you. Now though, because you broke up, you think that if you work hard to make him jealous, you’ll win him back.
You must understand that there is a big difference between the jealousy your ex felt when you were together, and the jealousy he will feel now that your relationship has ended. He probably still loves you, but he’s too angry to talk to you right now; if he is given a little time to get over his feelings, he will most likely contact you anyway.
However, if you get impatient and try to use another man to make him jealous and force him to come back to you, please understand that it will NOT work. He’s already hurt and angry, and adding jealousy to these emotions is probably the biggest mistake you could make right now, because he’ll drive him even further away from you.
You see, instead of feeling like he should accept you back, he’ll imagine that you’ve lost interest in him and decided to get involved with someone else. He will have the impression that he has lost you, so someone else and you will never get it back.
The best thing you can do is be patient, let him get over the break up, and then talk to him. If he knows you still love him, you’ll have a much better chance of him coming back into your life.