Has this question ever been a concern? Have you ever found someone who points it out to you? If so, then you may be in an abusive relationship. Based on research, there are a few indicators you might want to check before you start worrying. Your partner:
1) Does he express excessive control just to protect you?
2) Does he blame you every time for his bad temper?
3) Do you try to hide your insecurities behind superior acts?
4) Insinuate that they can harm you to control you (even though they really don’t)?
5) Try to isolate yourself; creating a distance between you and your family or friends?
6) Do you express jealousy towards your friends of the opposite sex?
7) Stop interfering in the family finances?
8) Does he show a typical lack of empathy?
9) Monitor your access and use of phones or other devices?
10) Do you play the victim card all the time?
11) Shows arrogance and is extremely demanding?
12) Does he mistreat you or hit you?
All of these signs indicate that you are definitely in an abusive relationship. Research says that men, in general, have a more violent nature than women. However, this does not mean that they themselves cannot be victims. It is a common misconception that only women can be subjected to abuse or violence in a relationship. This makes it even more difficult for men to accept or share their fate with their loved ones.
In our current society, individuals are rather shy about expressing their abuse even with theirs closed. The notion of overlapping shame is evident in most cases. Plus, all the abuse can lead them to think they deserve it. They may think that they are not physically attractive, that they are not smart enough, or that they have a bad nature. In severe cases, people fall under the illusion that if it weren’t for their partner, no one would accept them.
Therefore, it is necessary for you to think about it clearly and believe your intuition for once. If you have a feeling that something might not be right, you need to take a step back and think. You need to fight yourself and stop protecting your partner in your conscience. You have to ask yourself if your partner is really worth all that you are going through. Has anything changed since the time you just started dating?
It is imperative that you walk away from any relationship that is taking away your overall happiness. Know that he is worth loving and that the person who denies him might not be the one he should be spending his life with.