Dating is the time for lasting first impressions, so you need to get the big stuff right. Kissing is one of them. If you’re a woman who really likes someone, you want to make sure that when she kisses you, she wants to do it over and over again. What you are about to read is a take on this topic from a man’s perspective. As someone who has kissed multiple women shortly after the first date, these are my thoughts and thoughts on what made some kisses so common, while others spectacular.
And I have to say…statistically speaking, the nice kisses were about 5 percent of all. The rest were very ordinary, even unpleasant. Maybe the 40-year-old women I’ve kissed aren’t representative of the entire female population, but in my opinion, there certainly are plenty of women out there who have no idea what to do. So here are some important things to remember:
Before even thinking about kissing a man
Make sure your lips are soft and warm. There is nothing more unpleasant than a passionate moment that ends abruptly because you have rubbed your lips with someone else’s scales. Use a lip balm to keep your lips soft and exfoliate them with a toothbrush and warm water.
Make sure you smell good. This means choosing your perfumes and body powders carefully. There is nothing worse than kissing someone who smells like grandma. If you want to be sexy, think “young and fresh” when selecting these things. Also, take care of yourself and bathe regularly, because body odor or stale perspiration is a real turnoff. As for your breath…need I say more?
Doing it
The lyrics of the song that say “it’s in his kiss” apply to both women and men. A man will read how much he means to you by the way you kiss him. If he’s looking at you for a long-term perspective, he’ll also get a clear impression of what’s in store for him in the way of sensual delights or otherwise. You need to make sure he counts because ‘how it feels when you kiss’ is high on a man’s priority list that determines how he feels about you.
Whatever you do, don’t purse your lips when kissing. He’ll think you could be an ice queen or he’ll remember grandma’s kisses. If you get to the point where you want to kiss a man, let him know that you are a hot-blooded woman. Make it count or don’t bother. You need to open your mouth or he might close his heart. This does not mean directly start exchanging saliva and sliding the tongue; that could be a bit overwhelming and send a different message. But soft, spread lips and open mouth is where you need to start.
Gently touch your lips to his. Taste and savor the shape and texture of his mouth. Move your lips over his and gently suck on one of them or let him suck on you. If he is kissing your teeth or pressing your lips against your teeth, you have a serious problem. Put your lips out there! Also, keep your eyes closed or your man will think you’re just putting it up.
After that, all you need is to do what feels right. Take it as it comes, but let the man direct. That might be as far as they both want to go. On the other hand, your mutual body language may be telling you that it’s time to improve a bit. Signs of this are usually heavier breathing, more intense hugging, more kissing on the face or neck, and a sense of urgency and desire. This will send you to the sexiest kiss of all: the French kiss.
The French kiss surpasses all others in sheer sensuality and is a surefire way to fan the flames of desire. This is where you introduce your languages. He’ll let you know when he wants that, but you also have to feel ready for him to get there. Stick his tongue into his mouth and gently touch the tip of his tongue to yours. Stroke his tongue with yours, brushing to the sides, while letting him know you want this with your hands or arms around the back of his neck. What they do after that will depend entirely on how they feel about each other.
The perfect kiss comes in many forms, from nervous cheek kisses to sloppy wet kisses. It all depends on you and your partner and the dynamics of the moment. For some, a kiss can be a way of saying “I love you”; for others, it might just be saying “let’s have some fun and see how you feel.”
A kiss isn’t everything, but when it really counts, you don’t want to waste it.