Believe it or not, most men spend their hard-earned money on things that matter to them; but more important in the people who love and care. So you can find a man eagerly spending all his money on his mother, sister, friends, etc… but not on you.
But before you think he’s a complete jerk, you should know that he wants to treat you, but he has some reservations. All you have to do is help remove those reservations and doubts about yourself, and he’ll be completely open to spending money on you. Here’s how to get a man to spend money on you:
Show that you can take care of yourself
Chances are, if he is avoiding helping you or giving you money; it’s because he doesn’t want you to be completely dependent on him. He doesn’t want to father you or treat you like a baby. He wants to treat you like a grown woman who can take care of herself. Only when he sees this to be true will he feel that he can lavish you by spending money on you.
Remember that men are afraid of being locked into a problematic situation. A girl who needs a man who always takes care of herself, in her mind, can be troublesome; because she will always be aware of what she needs and how she needs it. Therefore, she seeks a more independent woman who will value him for more than just a “parental” role.
Earn what you are asking for
If you want him to take you out to dinner more often, if you want him to buy you gifts more often, and if you just want him to spend his money on you; you have to earn it. Men love challenges and they don’t like anything easy. It is easy for him to give money, but it is not easy for a woman to deserve and earn it.
He is trying to see what really matters to you here. Do you care about him, or just about money? IF you really care about him, you will do whatever it takes to earn his trust and his heart, which in turn will make him want to spend money on you.
be willing to give
Men who spend money on women do so because they feel that the woman is giving him everything he needs. Now clearly she doesn’t need money, but what men do need is emotional and mental support; understanding and intimacy, for starters. They need a woman who accepts and understands him, before criticizing and arguing with him.
In essence, if you fulfill his deepest desires to be understood, cared for, loved, trusted, etc… then he will easily open his world to you, in all aspects, including financial.