If you are reading this, then something terrible has happened. First, let me offer my condolences and know that I wish you the best. I do not cry for you, but with you, since I am also a widow.
There are things every new widow needs to know. And just as a businessman carries a briefcase full of important papers and files, you, the new widow, need a special case, what I call a bereavement briefcase, a safe place to store your important information, the material that will guide how you process your complaint.
Start with pen and paper. Think of a spiral-bound notebook. Then take it with you wherever you go. Yes, even to the bathroom, because no woman needs to go without Revlon Red or TP (toilet paper). Scribbling lists of things to remember to buy, names of people to write thank you notes, short entries about how you spent that awful, ugly, miserable, lonely, rotten first night without Him, and the memory of His last kiss will help ground you as you go. you slide into something. inconvenient, widowed, and will help her as she works through the complaint process. It will also help you stay focused. One week from today, one month, one year from now, you’ll only need to turn a page in your journal to read and reflect on the progress you’ve made: Your Life’s Record of 51 Ways to Leave Your Lover .
With that being said, I would like to tell you that things will get better. But they won’t. Let’s face it, “better” would be hearing the front door open and his hungry words: “Honey, I’m home! What’s for dinner?” Your life is forever changed now and things will never “get better”. The best this writer can offer is a “different” word. Because that’s exactly what your life is right now. It’s different.” But where you are now is where I once was and if you do what I tell you, you’ll be fine and soon you’ll find that everything will be alright.
I promise.